HOW TO GET A MAN AND KEEP HIM.
NOTICE.
I t takes a man a long time to win the attention of a woman. Then it take more time to get his first kiss, and he has to put out a lot of efforts to drag her in bed, then when he finally get her where he wanted her, he just get up and move out on her? Something does not sound right. We all know that men are stupid, but something just do not add up. A man do not dump a woman that he labor to get and when he get her, he just dump her off, get up and went off by himself. I agreed that we men are stupider, but it is against a man's pride to just walk away like looser. Pull his tail between his legs like whip dog and walk away?
This article did not set out to blame any body. But, to understand what is going on in a man's head a woman need to talk to another man. Because, women do not know, how men think.
Tommy Newberry In his book “Success Is Not An Accident” He say” Success is not an accident! This is, without a doubt, the single most important lesson you must learn and really understand if you want to develop your full potential and enjoy all the success you were designed to enjoy. Success in life comes from one thing: deciding exactly what you want to accomplish and then deliberately choosing to invest the minutes and hours of your life doing only those things that move you in the direction of your goal. It’s simple. It’s the truth. And the moment you fully accept it, your life and the lives of those you love will never again be the same. Success, however you choose to define it, is absolutely predictable.” This same lesson can be applied to all arias of our lives, even in trying to get a mate.
You need to realize that nothing come by chance. Good health does not come by chance, good relationship does not come by chance, you have to start it right, set it up right and continue working on it. Sex drive does not continue by chance, you have to work on it, constantly monitoring your system and give your body what it want to work. I saw 55 years old women in nursing home done, and I see sixty year old women living in the island with her boyfriend still going strong in all arias of her life. Education, good job good religious life and successful marriage life all come by calculated actions.
To get and keep a man involve three things. First the woman must bring herself up to the standard of the man she is trying to get. She must make herself look good physically. Not necessarily slimming down, some men need to see that butt. One of my client want a job to be a secretary, but her front teeth is hanging out of her mouth like rhino. She never did get that job. If she want a doctor, she might have to get that education or similar. Second, she must learn to give good signals. Signals giving is the art of conveying to men that the women is available, without verbalizing it. In some cases women do not even need to give signals, because men came knocking. After the man came on the hook, some good qualities will have to chip in to keep him home. Some of these we will talk about more in details.
GET HEALING BEFORE YOU START TO SEEK A MATE.
It is believe that most of the relationship that has been broken, broken because old grudges was drag over from the previous relationship, and cause the broken up of the new relationship. Wounded heart that was not heal should not even bother to start a new relationship. If you have to drag that dead fish around you better not try to start any new relationship. You have to forgave what old Joe did to you in Uncle Tom Cabin. You been through hell in that cabin, but if you are going to start a new family you will have to give this new person a clean start. You have to remember that this was not the person that rape, robbed and hurt you, this was not the person that let you down. Also, If a man sense that a woman been let down he try to run out on her as soon as he learn that, because he do not want to step in the dung that some other men left behind.
NEGOCIATE THE TERM OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
If you have more than one man, this is the time to tell him that you are only cutting him in on somebody else something. He must keep out of sight until he is being call. Decide on what kind of relationship is available and what kind you are willing to set up. Do not sell a man vagina then act like you married to him. That is a business relationship.
If the man is a counselor, he must get the woman to agree that he does not have to declare to her what he was talking about, when he was counseling that woman in his office. If the man is a black American man the woman must fix his head and let him know, never to pick fight with other man that look at her. Never to steer down other men but to act intelligently. Many of them go out with their girl friend and she came home with other man and he gone to jail for shooting somebody for looking at her.
WINNING THE POWER STRUGGLE BATTLE, BEFORE YOU MOVE IN TOGETHER.
SEEK A MAN THAT YOU RATED TO THE POINT OF WANTING TO SUBMIT TO.
Col. 3:18 (NASB-U) Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Conflicts of who has the emergency power in the family will developed between husband and wife, but if the wife choose a man that she rated to the point of willing to agree with, that will put an end to the power struggle that always destroy marriage. Tog of war slow down the progress of marriage.
Every species of animals, let the males fight and compete, them the female choose the strongest of them to pregnant her. Never had a female animal choose a weak and feeble male. Women on the other hand choose men that they think they can manipulate. If you can manipulate him, other women can do the same thing with him.
One of my lady friend went to Canada and work for one year. She sent out all her money to her husband to build an house on their land, the man use the money to build an house on his sweet heart land instead. When the woman came out she was broken hearted to see that one-year of her hardworking money build a good house for her husband’s sweetheart. She wonder where did she went wrong in choosing a man? This is where she went wrong.
Many people had problem with their jobs because they do not rate the supervisor, and do not want to work along with he/she. If a woman had a negative views of men, she should first get it clean up by going to a counselors. Because starting a relationship with a man, he is going to sense that you had problem with men and, and because of it wanting to dump the relationship.
LEARNING TO KNOW A WEAK MAN.
If a man cannot wait until a woman ready to take off her panties, but are putting pressure on her to do so, this is a man that have lost control of himself. These are points that a woman can pick up about a man from the first week.
If the man come bringing big gifts over, and do not seem to sense that the woman are a little turn off by these gifts, this man has the ingredients to be a stalker, a woman beater and a woman killer.
YOU DO NOT WANT A MAN THAT HAVE NO USE IN BED
LOOK OUT FOR HIDDEN TROUBLE.
There are things both men and women need to have in place like a net, before climbing up the relationship ladder. We need to learn problem handling skills. We must not bring the home problem to our jobs, nor bring the job problems to our home, we must learn to disengage from our Jobs once we leave for home, and learn to disengage from our home once we left for work. Nothing turn off a man like a woman coming home from work and started to pick a fight as she came home. The first things came to the man’s mind is that she was out and have an affair came in to blame him for all that. At the same time that is not what happen.
LEAVE YOURSELF AN OUT.
NEEDS AND COUNTER NEEDS.
To keep a man as a friend are husband, you have to be concern about his needs, and give him equal attention in return for what he has given to you the woman.
Women seek men because they had some kind of needs for men. Men responding to the signals coming from the women because men has women need also. At this point we are using fire to put out fire. We are also using needs to fix needs. If a man is going to hang around a woman she will have to take care of his woman needs.
KNOW WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP IS AVAILABLE.
A woman can get a man with little of no efforts at all. A good pear of pants, a clean mouth, and a good waving of the hands. The first thing a man looks at is the woman mouth. If the mouth mash up and the teeth are dirty she can forget it. After that the look at her back part, and finally her Brest. After getting to know her he looks at her survival power, this is her earning power. Can she earn money? does she have some kind of trade? After this he look at her sex ability, availability, and sense ability. Does she have commonsense? I once like a girl, she went home and told her friends all what has happen, then, they full her mind up with trash and sent her back to ask me it I think I did have every thing in a bag the other day? I say no miss. I never had you in any bag.
KNOW WHAT GROUP OF MEN YOU WOULD BE BEST FIT IN.
All the men there is can be classified into about six different groups. There is the Mamas man, the looks orientated man, the man for hire or gold digger, the sex orientated man, and the family orientated man. Out of all these groups of men the only group that a fat woman would not do well in are the looks orientated group of man. And, this depend on what country the woman is living in. Because some country, the men want woman with big bottom, big hip and small waist. In USA people are going by what they saw on the TV. But the TV is not real life. Those social skinny women pay a great price for that skinniness.
LEARNING TO GIVE GOOD SIGNALS.
One lady after trying to get to me for a long time and failed. Asked me to repair a pair of pants for her. After trying on the pants, she get her panties caught up in the zipper, so she say. she ask me to loosen the zip for her. I could hardly see what it caught up in because as far as I could remember there were no panties there in the first place. Now I had to have my hand inside there, and every thing is right up in my face. Every thing was going her way, until her impotent husband came to help, and get me off the hook. I had to give her credit, because it work well. She know how to make things happen, and that is all that matters.
Giving signals is the most vital part of getting a relationship up and running. In most cases woman do not even need to give signals. Men always come buzzing, it is a guy thing to come buzzing. Women will see men looking at them. Smart women can turn that look toward her own advantage. Some women (love language) is their greatest downfall. If you like the man you must show it. You cannot want a man to be your friend and keep hurting in, and expect him to know that you love him. Most men are not that smart. It is also important to know that just like women, each man has a wall of indifference or suspicion to broken through. Women think that, such and such a man only want to get into their pants. Men also has their suspicion of women. A woman see herself as cute, a man might see her as pickpocket. Men suffer broken heartedness more than women, but, because men suppose to be tuft, most of them refuse to show it. Some men kill themselves after suffer a let down. Most men is not shy or have cold feet in approaching a woman. Men suffer let down many times and do not trust women. To get him you have to give good signals. A married woman who is trying to get a man must even give better signals. If the woman is a supervisor, are some body that have men working under them as subordinate, she has to give even greater signals, because the men scare to make an approach and was wrong, and end up losing their job.
DO NOT GIVE A MAN DOUBLE SIGNALS
"HOW TO GET A PROPOSAL FROM A MAN WITH JUST THREE QUESTIONS"
After you are sure what kind of look it is. If it is a like, a love or a lust. He is now ready for the first question. #1 Hey John Wayne! Do you like what you see? Or does what you see please you?
This is going to open up a conversation. Within two are so minutes into the conversation. He is now ready for the second question #2 what kind of work do you do? If he says, "I am a mechanic,” You could say. I always want to know how to change my oil. #3 could you teach me?
What you are doing now is setting him up for a date, without him even knowing it. If it is lust, like or love, he will be glad for the opportunity to get with you. If you have a car you could have him over to your house in a day or two. When he arrives, you offer him a something to drink. If your car is working find, he does not have to pull any thing but goes through the motion. You can them show him a movies, and get to know each other. From here onward it is up to you.
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GET YOUR SEX PROBLEM FIX.
In the Oprah Magazine July. August 2000 volume 1. On page 180 It stated" An estimated 24 million American women aren't interested in sex, base on a recent study published in the journal of the American Medical Association" If a woman do not want the stuff, it is all ok, but chose a man that do not want the stuff also. Do not go chose stud and you know you want nothing.
When we reaches certain age, our body cut down on the production of hormones, that we need to live an active life. But we can know that something is wrong because there are certain system in our body that warned us of what is happening. Constipation told us that the colon system is impacted, and need flush, or need a change of diet. You and I est three meals per day, we must have at lest two bowels movement. If the food is not coming out then where is it going? Lack of sleep told us that our whole nervous system, emotional and physical life might collapse soon. Lack of sex urges tell us that the reproductive system, including liver and circulation system is in trouble. Love making is one of the biggest stress buster there is. The other stress buster is traveling. The third stress buster is worshiping God. But none of them come close to sexual pleasures.
Sexuality is a natural part of human existence, and should not be isolated and handles in the way we do, simple because of what it is, in fact all of us are here because of sex. If somebody did not get the sexual urges and act upon it, earth would not have replenished it self, so often as it did after two world wars and so many battles, death and destructions, also many out brakes of diseases, famines and earth quakes, no other forces or urges to live keep earth going, but sex.
This is one of the doctrines that is most mis understand in the Bible, and there are very few doctrines like the doctrine of reproduction, in fact it is the only teaching that has never been fully expound on by the Church, you hear very little about sex from the pulpit, and whenever you hear any thing it is always in the negative, with some blood and hell fire attach to it, people talk about the reproduction instinct in a hush, hush kind of way, it is look down upon as the great sin, people in the church think that they are saved because they have not indulged in sexual practice. It is the only doctrine that is left up to the ungodly people to teach. Everybody who has the gift or the need for championship participates in the act some way or another, but no body is willing to say yes we do. Because of the mentalities that have surrounded the act, many people do not know the right and wrong about the bed act, even among some people who are married, they still feel guilty when they participate in love making. But a careful and intelligent study of the Bible is the only way to determine the right wrong about reproduction system.
God himself has invented sex, for the continuing of the human race. God told Adam and Eve to multiply and replenish the Earth, back then the only way they know how to continue the human race was by the good old fashion sex.
Genesis 1:26 (NASB-U) Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth."
A woman can get a man regardless. However, if she has no hormone, and do not feel for that kind of thing, she will have to have money so as to catch a man for hire. For unknown reasoning a lot of church people had problem with such a thing, even the word turn them off.
Men are more concern with the woman's attitudes, availability, sense ability and sex ability is what men care about and nothing else.
BEWARE OF MARRIAGE BREAKERS.
WOMEN SHOULD NOT USE WOMEN COUNSELORS.
Sirach 42:13 "For just as moths come from garments, so harm to women comes from women." The New American Bible, Saint Joseph Edition
If a woman is having problem with men she should not use women COUNSELORS. Women tend to side with women and when your marriage is about to hit the rock, you want to know how to save it. There is not time for stereotyping.
Also, women do not like to see when another woman get lucky. One woman get a good man, her friends feel left out, and begin to poison her mind toward the man, so she can left him that they can get him. Finally, the woman left the man and move from Jamaica to the United States. She get up her friends, the same one that mess up things for her. As the time goes by things leak out and she found out that she was trick into dumping the man.
Another woman from Guyana, get a good man. Her friends poisoned mind and told her to left the man, and return to Guyana. The husband came home one day and find the house empty. for some four years he do not know where the wife was. One day he was passing one of those high Apartment building in New York and he heard a woman cal to him. He looked up and saw that it was his wife best friend, she throw down the key to him to come up. After talking for hours, she told him where his wife was. She return to Guyana a billed a house and live there. She asked him to sleep with her that night, when making love to her she told him that it is a long time that she been wanting him but the other woman was in the way. Right there the husband found out that it is she that poison the wife mind and sent her away. You have to beware of other women with your man. This problem is even worst in the church and among blood sisters, as soon as the author get married, one of the wife sisters kicked her in the belly, trying to make her lost our first child, prayer was made and the bleeding stop.
NEVER TELL A WOMAN FRIEND HOW GOOD YOUR HUSBAND ARE IN BED.
YOU HAVE THE FISH ON THE HOOK, DO NOT MAKE HIM GET AWAY.
ANTICIPATE THE PROBLEMS THAT PELAGE MARRIAGES AND DEAL WITH IT EVEN BEFORE IT BECAME A PROBLEM IN YOUR LIFE:
Some of the problems that seem to plague marriages are, look a phobia. This is when one spouse is afraid and insecure, that his or her spouse might be looking at somebody else. Many fight and even killing happen over “ What you looking at?”
One lady told me that her Jamaican husband buy her an house, and within two months after moving in to their new home, he move out on her and gone to live with another woman in a rented house.
I could not understand it until some eight months later when my wife and I buy our first home and we move in. I suddenly feel like I am living in her father’s house and I am not the owner of the house. I had to go back and look at the documentation to see if it is my name on it, and check with my account to see if the mortgage is coming from it. I know she make me feel this way because she is over joy and did not really meant it. But like I say, "men are stupid" and will get up and leave.
DO NOT GIVE A LYING IMPRESSION.
I found out that I would never get a woman to marry in that church, so I begin to look a wife in another church. I finally got married. Twenty years later, after I had children and grand children. I decide to examine the letters and found out that all the letters was written by the same person. The girl that brought me those letters was the one that wrote them all. She broke up all my relationship, by impersonating the women and wrote letters in their name, pretending they gave her the letters to give me.
She did all that because she wanted me, but what bother me is that she never gave any indication that she like me, in fact, she pretend that she could never want a man.
People did not get what they want because they did not go about getting it the right way, or have the nerve to go get it. I have seen countless numbers of fat women get married and have successful marriages. You cannot tell yourself that no body wants you.
STARTING OVER FROM A DIVORCE.
Picking up the pieces and starting over from a divorce is hard work especially for the woman. The husband only need to send in his child support, but the woman has the children with her, in most cases. These will scare off other men who do not want the responsibility of being a daddy for another man's children. Not only that, some husband want to return once they found out that the woman find love again. He started to come around again using the children as excuses.
If the children is under eighteen you will need to wait until those children came of age to consider serious relationship. Some men have no control and they messed up the children, by abusing them sexually.
I know that a woman have to get her sexual need taking care off, but for the children same, it is best not to chose a shocking up kind of relationship, or a relationship where that man is living in your home with those under age children. Not that all men are bad, but you just have to be realistic. My sister was rape by mama's boy friend, she never did get any council because in those days we never did know any thing about counseling. My sister never did recover from that rape. all of her relationship with men was a mess from that time, up to the time of her death. If you have to broke your knuckle, do so but think about those children.
THE END
The author of this article.
Was born in Jamaica west Indies.
Bachelor In Theology.
Masters in Christians counseling pending.
Member of the AACC. American Association of Christians councilors
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Proverbs 3:6 in all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Psalm 34:8 (NASB-U) O taste and see that the Lord is good; How blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!
HOW TO BECOME A CHRISTIAN.
Isaiah 7:11 (ASV) Ask thee a sign of Jehovah thy God; ask it either in the depth, or in the height above. Isaiah 7:12 (ASV) But Ahaz said, I will not ask, neither will I tempt Jehovah.
Ezekiel 18:32 (ASV) For I have no pleasure in the death of him that dieth, saith the Lord Jehovah: wherefore turn yourselves, and live.
First you must recognize that you are a sinner and need God mercy.
1 Peter 2:24 (Living) He personally carried the load of our sins in his own body when he died on the cross so that we can be finished with sin and live a good life from now on. For his wounds have healed ours!
YOU MUST KNOW THAT YOU CANNOT SAVE YOURSELF.
2 Peter 3:18 (ASV) But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and for ever. Amen.
Zech. 4:7 (KJV) Who art thou, O great mountain? before Zerubbabel thou shalt become a plain: and he shall bring forth the headstone thereof with shoutings, crying, Grace, grace unto it.
Eph 2:8 The Message Bible” “Saving is all his idea, and all his work. All we do is trust him enough to let him do it. It's God's gift from start to finish! Eph 2:9 We don't play the major role. If we did, we'd probably go around bragging that we'd done the whole thing!” There nothing you could do to save yourself , the only thing you could do is bowed your head and ask God to save you.
You must believe that there is a God.
No other person can save you except Jesus.
Acts 4:12 (Living) There is salvation in no one else! Under all heaven there is no other name for men to call upon to save them."
Then you must know that God invites you to come to him.
Do not wait until tomorrow to get save.
2Co 6:2 The Message Bible. “God reminds us, I heard your call in the nick of time; The day you needed me, I was there to help. Well, now is the right time to listen, the day to be helped.”
Delay not your conversion to the lord, put it not off from day to day. Remember that tomorrow is promise to no man. Accept the lord, go home and continue with your life, if the lord.. If the lord saves you in bad life style, he has some plan up his sleeve how to get you out of it, give him time to work out his salvation in your life.
WHOSEOEVER SHALL CALL.
Romans 10:13 (KJV) For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Ezekiel 33:11 (KJV) Say unto them, As I live, saith the Lord God, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked; but that the wicked turn from his way and live: turn ye, turn ye from your evil ways; for why will ye die, O house of Israel?
Now bow your head and pray this prayer.
From this day onward you will begin to feel a flood of joy and peace full your heart and mind. You must confess Jesus to others with your mouth. Tell what great thing the lord had done for you. Romans 10:9 (Living) For if you tell others with your own mouth that Jesus Christ is your Lord and believe in your own heart that God has raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Then you need to start reading the bible, start reading from St Mathew.
THE LORD WILL MAKE YOU HOLY IN HIS OWN TIME.
OUR BODY WAS NOT REEDEM AT CONVERSION.
Rom 8:21 that the creation itself also shall be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the liberty of the glory of the children of God. Rom 8:22 For we know that the whole creation groaneth and travaileth in pain together until now. Rom 8:23 And not only so, but ourselves also, who have the first-fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for our adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
THE SINS OF THE BODY WILL NOT BE CONQUERED LITERALY BY ALL SAINTS WHILE LIVING ON EARTH.
When the Lord redeemed us our body was not redeem, it was our spirit and soul. The changes took place in our spirit man. Not the body. The body will still continue to sin. If the believer do not know this they will become worried as to why am I still lusting? And became eaten up with guilt to the point where they experience no peace and joy.
Even though our body were not redeem, we who wanting to live up to certain standard, to please society, must bring our body into subjection, even thou we do not do that to buy salvation. But to prevent Satan from capitalized on it. But to bring this body into subjection take time. We saw belivers at the judgment seat of Christ in heaven being judge for the deeds of the body.
1 Cor. 9:27 (NASB-U)but I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.
2 Cor. 2:11 (NASB-U) so that no advantage would be taken of us by Satan, for we are not ignorant of his schemes.
Romans 12:1 (GW)Brothers and sisters, in view of all we have just shared about God's compassion, I encourage you to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, dedicated to God and pleasing to him. This kind of worship is appropriate for you.
2 Cor. 12:7 (NASB-U)Because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, for this reason, to keep me from exalting myself, there was given me a thorn in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to torment me—to keep me from exalting myself!
SOME THING YOU OVERCAME IT BY IMPUTED GRACE.
“I saw a river of blood, flows from Calvary Mountain, I am in it and your are in it, and I am clean, clean” By Smith Wiggle worth.
We can sing with the song writer" I rise walk in heaven’s own light above the world and sin with heart made pure and garments white, and Christ en-throned with in. The cleansing stream I see I see I plunge, and O It cleans-eth me. O praise the Lord, it cleans-eth me, it cleans-eth me yes, cleans-eth me."
HOW TO CONTINUE IN THE FAITH.
Do not put any pressure upon your selves to live more holy than thou, as you go on from day to day, the lord will work out his life and will in you. Do not let other over holy Christians set holy goal for you, it will strangulate you into discourage. The lord asks you to taste and see. Taste mean to take a small portion and feed upon it in your own time and style, and when you approved you take more.
FIND SINCARE CHRISTIANS TO BE YOUR FRIEND, NOT NECESSARILY THE ONES THAT HAS A LOT OF DO’S AND DONT’S.
Keep company with wayfaring men.
TWELVE PILLARS OF THE CHRISTIAN LIFE.
Daily praying, alms giving, confession of sins, fasting and prayer, daily Bible reading and mediating on the written word, assembling of yourself with other believers, confessing your faith to others, or faith sharing, supporting the ministry with your offerings and tithes, love the brotherhood, perfecting holiness, LOVE THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, and learning to listen to the leading voice of the Holy Spirit. This is not a twelve commandment, nor a way to get nor keep salvation, but if you master these it will fill your life with daily power, new vision and fresh revelation.
Micah 6:8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
John 16:13 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.
As you and I walk with the lord from day to day we will just walk right into his will, as we yield to his Holy Spirit. His will, will be unfolded to us.
Titus 3:2-AV To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, [but] gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.
1 Thessalonians 4:11-AV And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;
Romans 13:8-AV Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.
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